Several times during breakfast today, my husband Kevin checked out of our conversation and stared into an unknown region of his mind. “Are you okay?” I said. He told me he was fine, but there was simply too much going on in our lives right now. No wonder . . .
- Our daughter’s car was in the repair shop and Kev had assumed the role of chauffeur for getting her to work and her three kids to their schools.
- Two members of the congregation he pastors were in different hospitals with serious health challenges.
- His turn to take my 92-year-old mom for her monthly eye injection–a major undertaking–was coming up in a few days.
Everyone has problems. The issues above represent outward circumstances that need our attention. But what happens when the problems we wrestle are inside us?
- We have conflicts or communication issues with family members and friends
- We don’t understand ourselves–we do and say things that baffle or bother us
- We have fears, doubts, and confusion that tie our brain in knots
These are inner conflicts, not as easily solved as the outward issues. But neither are they impossible to get through. With God’s help, some time, and work, we CAN overcome all the turmoil inside us. We CAN live in victory. Here are a few places to start:
- Talk to God about what bothers you. Get alone, get quiet, and ask hard questions. WHY do I behave like this? HOW can I overcome this habit? WHAT is the root of this fear? It may take some time to hear the answers, and we may need to revisit our issues many times. That’s okay. God wants to help us more than we need help.
- Read, read, read–in the Bible, online, and in books and magazines that address the inner conflict you’re experiencing. Discover how others found solutions to their problems. Educate yourself. Open your mind to the sweet possibility that you don’t have to live with this turmoil.
- Create a Support System, whether a few close friend to confide in and ask for prayer help, a trained counselor, a 12-step program, or a trustworthy pastor. When we surround ourselves with others who are willing to help, we gain hope for positive change. We begin to see ourselves, rather than victims, as victors.
Have you experienced inner conflict lately? What are you doing to help God help you overcome?